10 Questions that Reveal
your Child's Social Edge
We are living in a time where children are bright, expressive, and endlessly capable ... yet many are quietly missing the foundational social skills that help them truly shine. Confidence at the table. Eye contact in conversation. The ability to enter a room with ease and leave a lasting impression. The gap isn’t academic. It’s social. In a world moving faster than ever, children are rarely taught how to engage , only how to achieve. And while grades may open doors, social confidence is what carries them through.
I’ve created a 10-question reflection to help you identify where your child(ren) is thriving and where a little guidance could make all the difference. Take the quiz, have an honest look, and if you’re ready to be intentional about building real social confidence, join Avignon Etiquette, because polished, self-aware children don’t just stand out… they’re prepared for every room they enter.
1. The Introduction Test
Does your child confidently introduce themselves to adults — offering a clear name, eye contact, and a handshake if appropriate?
Or do they hesitate, waiting for you to step in and carry the moment for them?
2. The Table Presence Question
When dining out, does your child understand cutlery placement, napkin use, and how to engage in thoughtful conversation?
Or does silence feel uncomfortable without a screen to fill it?
3. The Listening Advantage
Can your child maintain steady eye contact, listen without interrupting, and respond thoughtfully?
Do they know that being a good conversationalist begins with being a good listener?
4. The Formal Readiness Check
If invited to a wedding, gala, or special event tomorrow, would your child know how to enter a room, greet others, sit properly, and conduct themselves with quiet confidence? Or would they rely on constant correction?
5. The Body Language Factor
Does your child understand how posture, tone of voice, facial expressions, and digital habits shape how others perceive them?
Are they aware that presence often speaks before words do?
6. Cross-Generational Confidence
Is your child comfortable speaking respectfully with grandparents, teachers, business professionals, and peers alike?
Can they adjust their tone and conversation appropriately for different audiences?
7. The Gratitude Indicator
Does your child express thanks naturally — through words, gestures, or handwritten notes?
Do they understand that gratitude builds relationships and leaves lasting impressions?
8. The Composure Question
When faced with disappointment or disagreement, can your child pause, regulate their emotions, and respond respectfully?
Do they have the language to disagree without being disagreeable?
9. The Reputation Reflection
If you weren’t present, would teachers, coaches, and other parents describe your child as polished, respectful, and self-aware?
Is their character consistent whether you are watching or not?
10. The Opportunity Question
Are you intentionally carving out moments to teach and model these social skills?
Or are you hoping they will absorb them simply through observation and time?
Where Confidence
Takes Root.
If you found yourself hesitating at even one of these questions, you’re not alone.
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There will always be people who dismiss etiquette as outdated, unnecessary, or
something children will “just figure out.” But what we are really talking about
isn’t which fork to use. It is confidence.
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Awareness. Emotional regulation. The ability to enter a room and contribute
with ease. These are not old-fashioned skills — they are future-proof ones.
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Children do not accidentally become socially fluent. They become fluent because
someone slows down long enough to teach them, model it, and give them space
to practise.
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Academic achievement will continue to matter. Talent will matter. Technology
will matter. But the children who stand out — in classrooms, on teams, in
interviews, and eventually in leadership — will be the ones who know how to connect.
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That is why this work is not extra. It is foundational.
